Frigidity is broadly used to refer to a low libido – a woman’s sex drive. This term is often used incorrectly to describe a woman who is emotionally cold or does not respond to her partner’s sexual advances.
A lack of sexual desire can be psychologically embedded in a person’s subconscious and linked to greater issues that should be addressed or discussed. In some cases, women may experience low libido and refuse or avoid sexual intimacy or they may endure it without being able to reach orgasm, finding little pleasure in the act.
In other cases, women may have difficulty being aroused or sex may even cause considerable pain or discomfort. But whether the root cause is emotional or physical, frigidity can result in conflict and strain in even the most secure relationships.
If lack of sexual desire has become a problem in your relationship, there are many treatment options to explore depending on the underlying causes and specific symptoms. A communication problem is often at fault for lack of sexual desire, so try discussing your partner's feelings.
If the problem is an emotional one, bring it out into the open, or consider making an appointment with a therapist for personal or couple’s counselling. It is possible for low libido or frigidity to be caused by a physical problem. If this is suspected, seek a professional opinion by consulting a gynaecologist, general practitioner or complementary health professional.
What Causes Frigidity?
It must be understood that sexuality involves a complex set of emotions and behaviours, ranging from romance and feelings of closeness and security to feelings of sensuality and desire.
Intimacy has no switch that can be flipped on when one partner wishes to become intimate, and usually the setting and situation must feel right and comfortable before both partners can enjoy it.
Emotional Causes of Frigidity
- Past traumatic sexual experience such as rape, incest, or sexual assault
- Feeling emotional distance from a partner
- Communication problems, an argument or an unresolved emotional issue between partners
- Intimacy inhibitions linked to religious or personal taboos, or feeling repulsed by sex
- Emotions such as shame, guilt, depression, anxiety, or boredom in the relationship
- Situational factors such as an intoxicated partner, or a mother-in law being situated in the next room
- Fear of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases
- Low self-esteem or lack of confidence
- Physical Causes of Frigidity
- Pain or discomfort during intercourse (dyspareunia)
- Vaginal dryness
- Lack of adequate foreplay
- Poor male sexual performance
- Exhaustion or fatigue
- Effects of prescription medications
- Effects of alcohol or substance abuse
- Changes related to menopause or hormonal imbalance
- Damage to nerves due to surgery or trauma
- Infection or gynaecological problems
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